Donna is fairly new to the LBD journey. Her husband, Albert,
was diagnosed with mild Lewy body dementia a year ago. There was an initial
disbelief over the diagnosis, but once she and Albert and their two grown
daughters accepted that they were on this journey, it wasn’t so bad. In fact,
Donna said, “It was really a little easier. Now I understood why Al had such a
problem doing things he’d done for years, like putting away his clothes
properly.”
But then, as it does with everyone eventually, Lewy got
worse. Al began having delusions and accused Donna of stealing his money. When
he got physical, Donna became frightened and called his doctor who admitted him
to a psychiatric hospital. Not the best choice for someone with LBD, but at
least they were apparently aware of Lewy’s drug issues and didn’t try to calm
him with antipsychotic drugs. And Donna
was assured that Al, a veteran, was eligible for Long Term Care benefits. She
applied immediately.
Two weeks later, Donna was pleased to hear that her
application was “one step away from acceptance.” By then, Al’s delusions had
stopped and he began campaigning to go home.
Since he seemed to be his old, mild self, the doctor complied after a
few days. Donna was ecstatic! “He’s so much better—why, we even uh, did it, last
night. That’s not happened for so long it’s a wonder I remembered how!”
And then, Al was delusional again. This time he thought Donna
was a nurse in bed with him—but still after his money. This is when Donna
showed up at a local support group, devastated. She told the members, “I
thought he was well. But now, he’s just as bad as he ever was—No, he’s worse.
He didn’t even know me!”
Fluctuating cognition (see our May 25 blog) can be a
terrible setup for the new LBD caregiver like Donna. If you believe, like Donna
did, that the Lewy rollercoaster isn’t going to go back down, that the
“recovery” is going to be permanent, you will be horribly disappointed when
your loved one starts acting out again. The more experienced LBD caregiver
accepts the gift and enjoys this “time out” with her loved one, making the most
of it while it lasts. But she knows it is temporary and although of course,
she’s sorry to see this time of awareness end, she isn’t surprised.
The story doesn’t end there. Al went back into the hospital
but now Donna was told that he was no longer eligible for VA long term care
benefits…he had recovered and didn’t qualify anymore. She’d have to reapply!
Again, the people who needed to know—the doctor, the facility, even the
VA—weren’t aware of Lewy’s fluctuations.
October is Lewy Awareness month. It’s almost over for another
year, but the need continues. The list of people who need to know is
long…family members, doctors, nurses, hospices, VA officials, and many more. We
need to extend Lewy Awareness to all year long, not just for one month. And we
need to focus on things like cognitive fluctuations as well as the drug
problems which, although very serious, are not the only way that our loved ones
get short changed or even damaged by lack of knowledge in the medical
community.